Loneliness and life’s stages: A commentary

Ami Rokach

doi:10.59400/apr.v2i1.1138

Ami Rokach York University, Toronto, ON M3J 1P3, Canada

Ariticle ID: 1138

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DOI: https://doi.org/10.59400/apr.v2i1.1138

Keywords: adolescence; adulthood; childhood; elderly; loneliness; young adults

Abstract

Loneliness is an integral part of life. It may be experienced periodically or on a continuous basis, but regardless, humans are all aware of its existence and influence on their lives. In this commentary, we examine the loneliness that humans face, from cradle to grave, and how it feels. Age, life experience, maturation, personal awareness, and cultural background bring about and affect our loneliness experiences. We highlight the experience as it presents itself in each of life’s stages.

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